You Can Not Escape Me....I Have My Eyes On "YOU"

           Call me a little paranoid or over protective,I can be a "Hawk Mom" when the need arises,and in my case the need arises frequently..almost every day :P.Its still okay,I'm just making sure my Girls are safe...and it is No crime to be alert and watch out for any suspicious Monster...My kids call me the Hawk Mom !!! hehe ( I like that title)... ;)

             I guess,this protectiveness is seen in every Parent,but,it depends the extent to which they can go.I have seen very cool,non interfering Parents,who let their kids just be and let them learn from their mistakes...kids, fall get up and learn a lesson...I'm okay with the Fall thing,you fall get a little bruise and then you are all okay to run again.My protectiveness stems from my upbringing and my experiences as a growing up preteen/teen.I was molested,and it wasn't by any green eyed monster,but,some one I innocently looked up to,respected and considered as a  uncle figure. He was a friend of the family,I was only a 12 yr old,naive little girl,who had no idea,what this "uncle" was up to...I just knew what ever he did,was not right,knew it was wrong...the problem was,how was I to tell my Mom??what was I to tell her??would she have believed me??I found it embarrassing, I was scared and I was shy to tell my Mom..This incident left  a deep scar and a feeling of  fear and hate for males.Okay, this was, back then...but...I never have forgotten this incident.Now married, and a mother of two Beautiful girls,I'm going to try and keep my girls safe and teach them how they can be safe...

           We talk to our kids and ask them to be weary of strangers,we try our best to see our kids are safe and emphasize upon staying away from unknown places and from strangers.They are taught not to trust strangers and to be alert about their surroundings....doing this we think we have done our duty as a Parent and we think our kids are safe....are You sure your kid is Safe???Sexual predators live in your neighborhood. It is a very sad truth that there are men (and some women) who abuse children. It is a parent's worst nightmare to think their child could potentially become a victim of a sexual predator. Even more chilling, is the fact that sexual predators are often, A trusted relative,or a good friend of the family.Unfortunately, there are sick people in every walk of life.

                   I have tried creating an environment at home, where my 11 yr old feels free of telling me everything. I always thank my daughter for telling me something, even if she is "tattling". We don't discourage "tattling" in our home, because that is a tool a sexual predator may use to keep their victim quiet.It wasn't easy,{A, year ago,I caught my child watching some Adult contents on the Net,when asked upon,out of fear,she denied and lied,that left me wondering,where had I gone wrong??}
 I had to win her over,and show,her,that she could always confide in me, that she wouldn't be judged,and that We would Believe her !!  Another very important way to protect your kids from sexual predators is to let them know their bodies are respected. I know it is common to make children hug their grandmothers or aunts or whoever, but in doing that, you are also communicating the message (however unintentional) that they have to do something with their bodies that makes them feel uncomfortable, because an adult says so.Now, we have stopped the practice of welcoming a Friend or Relative with a Hug.

                    We now have open communication with our child.God forbid,if, your child does approach you and has the courage to tell you that something someone did made them feel uncomfortable, Believe them. Even if it is a loved one, Believe them. Sexual predators come in all walks of life......Take care, my big Puyo and little Puyo!!! and Remember Mommy is here....Hawk Mom !!!