~~~~ 51 KETLEY PL, ;) ~~~~

              From time immemorial, A platonic Friendship between the people of different genders, is doubted upon.Though sharing defines close friendships, there's a noted gender divide in the way people express intimacy. In other words,between Men they,
prefer topics like cars or sports rather than themselves. Women conducted friendships by sharing information about themselves, their emotions, and their relationships. Women related "face-to-face" and men related "side-to-side."....hmm...You get what I mean...We get to see that, don't We..???

                      Friendship between the young is thought to be grounded on pleasure,Okay, we all get that, don't we??,but how young is young?? Would the age 36 be considered young?? The lives of the young are regulated by their feelings, and their chief interest is in their own pleasure and the opportunity of the moment. With advancing years, however, their tastes change too, so that they are quick to make and to break friendships ( hmm,this becomes a case to ponder upon) because their affection changes just as the things that please them do and this sort of pleasure changes rapidly. Also the young are apt to fall in love, for erotic friendship  for the most part swayed by the feelings.I guess, that is why they fall in and out of friendship quickly, changing their attitude often within the same day.That is how they realize the object of their friendship..... (what crap) So is it friendship, or is it erotic friendship??Consider, it was only erotic friendship,when a Male friend,moved out and forgot conveniently to share  his New Address !!!( I laughed ) Although,he maintained his contact with us,not ones did he tell us,that, he was no more at his old address, the facade went on, for nearly a year,He maintained the Lie... while I pretended to believe Him.....Such mean mentality people,are in no means worthy of My friendship....Even,my enemies,need to be worthy of my Animosity.... huh

          So,I get going on my journey to prove everyone wrong.Over the years, I have been fortunate to have a few well meaning Male friends.I have come to notice I get along pretty well with the opposite gender than with those of my own ( Females). With all due respect to the Ladies out there,I cant stand the bitchy nature of women.My status on Facebook may say I have some 400+friends but is it true???If you thought women are capable of bonding,and understanding another woman,think twice...I may,have to face the wrath of other women (in case they are reading this blog).Well,yes I do share,my emotions,thoughts,feelings with a very few close friends,whom I consider as thoughtful,mindful friends,either they are some one I know for the last 20 + years.I know for sure, I'm not being judged for who I'm,what I'm or where I'm.That's cause,our friendship goes way back to my teen years.These are my true friends,whom I can call upon 2 in the morning or discuss some boring crappy neighbor.

             Mindfulness is a state of active, open attention on the present. When you're mindful, you observe your thoughts and feelings from a distance, without judging them good or bad. Instead of letting your life pass you by, mindfulness means living in the moment and awakening to experience.In my opinion, the friendship of those who are good, is perfect.These are the people who wish good for each other, and they are good in themselves, because each loves the other for what he is, and not for any incidental quality. Accordingly,such friendships are considered to last longer,more over,goodness is an enduring quality.However,I earlier stated,that,all women unbiased,by nature have these bitchy qualities.I dread to go to a female friend ( someone whom i just met a few yrs ago, say 5-6 yrs ago) and tell her a sob sob story.Its not her fault cause she is low on Empathy.Empathy is the experience of understanding another person's condition from their perspective. You place yourself in their shoes and feel what they are feeling.

                       All that sharing and discussing in a female-female friendship can become exhausting, as we all have been there and done that,One night, I stayed up all night  comforting a broken hearted girlfriend . With men, I can joke and banter without any emotional baggage. "Friendships with men are lighter, more fun,". "Men aren't so sensitive about things." At times, I also like the protective, familial and casual warmth I get from my men Friends. viewing them as surrogate big brothers."You know you love someone and enjoy them as a person, but not enough to date or marry them. What does this mean?"Platonic love does exist !!a connection devoid of lust...