~~~~The Name Game~~~~

........This one is for you "BALA"..........
       
                My older child is lovingly called "Bala",as of now its just Me who calls her "Bala". Born 12 years ago,Even before she was conceived,I had known I would be naming my child with a Unique name,which also had a beautiful meaning to it,and yep,it would begin with the letter 'A'. My love for the letter 'A' goes back to my growing up days.It may sound funny to some,please don't judge me to be a 'letter freak' or 'superstitious',I aint both. (thankfully). I can't recall when it all began the Love for the letter 'A'...going back...roughly guessing it must have been when I,was learning to write the letters...or...may be Mouthing the letter 'A' as yayyyy....or it could be,when my papa insisted on scoring a 'A'..and the importance of standing first in class..or getting good grades..."A one" is what I used to hear all around me....As it was destined to happen I was getting more attracted to the letter A for some unknown reason.My best friend in school was Anita,then came Aruna, Amita, Amrita , Angela, Alisha....No joke...the list goes on..Hey hang on,they were not the only friends..I had my other bunch of friends as well..its not as if I went looking for people with the names starting with the letter 'A'..it just happened....
   
              Okay,those were my (once upon a time school days),In college too I some how was stuck with the A fascination. Including A (Adult movies ) hehe I'm kidding.After I was done with my studies and took a break from books for a while.I was testing on to see if I would end up marrying someone whose name started with the letter A...Surprise Surprise I sure did !!!! Lol. It was just a coincidence that I met this gentleman and married him for the letter A...hahaha,come on I'm kidding.Anyways,now I was darn sure and it was hard proof that the child or children I would have in future shall be named with names starting with letter A.

             Two yrs into marriage and I was blessed,when I realized I was pregnant,apart from getting things started and learning to be a Good Mom,I was busy browsing books for names,I was very clear regarding the letter A and had no second thoughts.The challenge was to find a Unique name which not only had a meaning to it ,but also a Story.Now now where was I to come across such a Name?? Again,consider me Lucky,I found the most Beautiful,Unique name with a fascinating story behind it and guess what...it started with the letter....yep....A.

             Finally, I'm so excited, about the apt name, I found for my precious baby,feeling so proud of myself, With pride in my heart, I go to discuss with my hubby dear, about the name and on having the  naming ceremony for our baby, on the Auspicious day... and to my utter surprise all I get is.....{ just a nod and a...long pause...and once again a hmmm..."do you want to think it over??"} "Goshhhh...dont you like the name??"  So I tell him, "how about pitching in ??"  (playing the important papa role)??   Do something, get creative,look for unique names....and the hubby dear pitches in with...Tina,  Bina, Lina names.With all due respects to these names,I have nothing against these names.Its just , Not my cup of tea. :)

           So,here I'm with baby in my Arms...The joy of my heart...the little cute bundle...and its time to name her.We had a small naming ceremony,As its customary for the Father of the child to whisper the name in her ears,The Papa bear does the needful,although with a little doubt in mind and unsure of the name,yet he goes ahead and whispers Her name... I have it my way as always.I'm pretty happy and see myself in control and happy finally my Precious baby has a Beautiful Name.

         Day's roll by,and I'm here feeling all jittery ..why??? cause the name has to be registered and I need to get the Birth certificate,so as I can go and apply for her Pass Port. Hubby dear is been stalling for a pretty long time giving me stale excuses.I turned around and asked for his uncertainty,and hesitatingly hubby said... "can we change her name..???" Whhhhhhhhhhhhat ????? I tried explaining,haven't we named her the most beautiful ,unique name..??? It also has a story behind the name..More over you have named the baby on the Auspicious Day and whispered her name thrice in her ears!!!! Call me religious.. yes I'm. Hubby was adamant and wanted one more chance,his side of reasoning was {"You dint give me any time to decide on the name"}

          Furious is a mild way to say,how I felt.But,I dint want him feeling betrayed and I was fed up with the whole situation,I just wanted a Name for my little one,and was ready to give in one more time.I asked Papa dear to write down some names on a piece of paper and fold them.So he did,may be some 4-5 names.Wrote them neatly on paper and folded them ( no one could see those names) and I had just One Unique name...wrote it neatly on a piece of paper and folded it.We tossed all these folded papers into a bowl and went into the God's room,I placed this bowl as a offering to the God's and prayed,that the name we pick shall be The name for my child,and that I shall be happy ( half heartedly)Later,we asked my Mom,to pick any folded paper from the bowl with her eyes closed. She did....I was the most nervous of them all.When my Mom read out the name...All I did was Cry !!! cry out of joy...All the God's were on my side and it was now Finalized !!!!

       Finally it was the day for us to go and register the name.I was all ready and out of the house and to my horror,Papa bear is in no hurry and is still requesting me to change my mind !!!That was it...I could take no more...I stormed out of the house,with Papa bear running after me...hehehe. I jumped into a Auto parked by the side of the road and asked the driver to take me to the Registering Office.(lol) Papa bear caught up and he too jumped in with me...hahaha and kept asking me ...are you sure ?? your not gonna change your mind ?? I just ignored,went to the office and filled the forms,and very reluctantly Papa bear signed.. sigh *

      Today not only is my Baby proud of her Name,so is Papa bear wink*.Not only that, he loves to narrate the story behind her name,and plus the whole incident of how she was named...hahaha. The second time I was pregnant,Papa bear just left it totally to me.We didn't want to repeat another ~~~ Name Game ~~~

                                ARYAKI and ACHIRAA


          

   

   

~~~~The Amorous Me~~~~

The Amorous Me.....

            Come, fall in love with Me, and, you'll never lack for excitement... ;) But are you the kind of man who can handle a full-blooded independent, forceful female? Because that's what I'm.

This passionate, intense creature can't give a tepid response.I'm a fully stocked fireplace, with logs, kindling, and paper, waiting for the touch of a match to set Me on fire.

In  relations with men I'm domineering. You can either accept it or leave. If you stay, you've made the first concession on a long road. At the end, you're likely to find you've been molded and shaped to fit My image of what My love should be.

What I want, I get. When a man meets an irresistible force, he tends to become a highly movable object.Yes, I need love and normally get more than my share, but, I let NO man become My lord . I like to meet a man on equal terms. If he offers loyalty, I repay him in kind. If he is untrustworthy, I also repay him in kind.
When in love I'm  faithful, and expect total fidelity in return. My jealousy is rooted in possessiveness. I don't need a lover who has too many other interests. I want all of him—or nothing at all. I need to be number One in your life. I need for you to express and show me this. I am very confident in myself and abilities. HOWEVER, let me think that I am not first in your life, or that at some point I am sharing what I know to be mine?? ALL HELL BREAKS LOOSE! That's when the relationship is over for me. I aint  jealous because of a feeling of insecurity (the root cause of most jealousy), but because I have to be the number one in my Lovers life.

        I look for a partner who can make Me feel safe, secure, protected. I need to feel like a woman, and I need My Man to be like a MAN. I don't like to be controlled or dominated, except in the bedroom...  ;). And even then, you better hurry, because my fiery domineering nature will rear and I can flip the script quickly.It takes a man who is secure in himself to handle Me. I'm not to be taken lightly, or to be used or abused

My happiness lies in a long term relationship. I enjoy sharing everything with a lover and I'm  highly affectionate, even sentimental. I can / will be your staunchest ally, fight side by side with you, believe in you, encourage you. I'm a marvelous companion for a man on the way up or fighting to stay at the top because I'll give him all the strength and determination.Yep I'm Ambitious!!

When I do not feel loved enough,I can become shrill and demanding. Above all, I won't tolerate being IGNORED or neglected. The straight road to perdition is a relationship with an unhappy Me  :(.All I want is to be understood and appreciated. If you can handle Me with a little tact and  admiration, this vivacious, active, mischievous, sensual, fascinating woman will do anything for YOU.....  :)

       {The sad part is.. I don't think I'm compatible with many. Either I get  bored cause the person is too tame and slow or I loose interest in a person who's too demanding and aggressive (since I can handle that part pretty well by Myself) }